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“I was talking to my friend about that last week,” a 20-something client explained to me in a recent session, following up on a previous discussion we had about her relationship anxiety. “What did she say?” I asked. “She told me that she’s struggling with the same thing. We actually had a really good talk about...

I’m frequently asked by clients both in new and long-term relationships how to determine if the relationship is a rebound or real love. The term “rebound” carries quite a negative stigma in our cultural lexicon, and armchair psychoanalysts tend to throw it around anytime someone enters a new relationship within weeks after their last relationship...

It’s all too human to get lazy in our relationships and take things for granted. When things are going well, we have a tendency to coast. Here are some ways to enjoy more fulfilling connections: Listen deeply.Listen especially carefully when your partner or friend is expressing something about the relationship. A sincere effort to listen—even it you don’t fully understand everything...

As children, we often form a fantasy of what real love looks like. Though we may paint a pretty picture in our minds, this fantasy isn’t necessarily built on the admirable qualities we truly desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and...