There are ten personality traits that attract men. Each reveals a part of a woman’s true character. They show men if you’re going to be a good match. If you’re a good person. If you have what it takes to make him happy. If you’re short-term or long-term dating material. Needless to say, it’s important for women to have all ten traits.
These personality traits attract success not only in the dating world, but in the business world as well. Each one can dramatically improve the quality of your life. So make sure you get the promotion and second date you want by ensuring having each of the ten personality traits listed below.
1. Positive outlook
Men can’t help but be attracted to positive women. These women act like magnets. Wherever they’re standing in a room, a crowd follows to bathe in their positive glow.
A big smile, followed by some kind words, is their trademark greeting and usually all it takes to win men over. Men always look forward to meeting women who will give them positive re-enforcements. They feel stronger, sexier in her presence. Their ideas seem smarter. Life seems easier. For men, a woman wearing a big smile and projecting a positive outlook appears twice as attractive.
Learn: To find the bright side of everything. Spend time discovering what makes each person special and tell them why that is. Tell stories that uplift the human spirit. Remind everyone around you what a great place the world can be and what an important part they play in it.
2. Confidence
A confident woman is alluring. She stands out in a crowd. Her posture is powerful. Her eyes self-assured. Her walk mesmerizing. She isn’t afraid to be the center of attention or shift into the background. Nor is she afraid to just be herself.
For a man, a confident woman is hard to find and even harder to keep his eyes off of. Confidence is a mix of many. Combine a healthy self-image, strong body language, the smell of success and a certain swagger, and you’ve got confidence. Confidence is addictive to everyone around you. It’s a powerful emotion they all want to be a part of in hopes it will rub off on them.
Learn: To love yourself. You have to have faith in your abilities, ideas and personality to radiate confidence. If you believe you’re a great person to be around in any situation, your body language, mannerisms, actions and conversations will reflect exactly that.
3. Aggression
Men love women who aren’t afraid to go after the things they want in life. Aggression takes energy, vitality, fearlessness, ambition and passion. All are emotions men covet in women and want in their own lives. An aggressive woman will be seen as a more sexual figure than a passive woman.
Aggression gives women two major advantages. The first is that they are more noticeable. An aggressive woman isn’t afraid to make sure men are aware of her presence and has no fear of approaching. The second is aggressive women are more genuine because they don’t fear the other person’s view of them. Their words hold more weight because they’re not censored, they’re from the heart.
Learn: To have no fear. Flaunt your fearlessness, ambition and passion. Make people take notice of your presence. Approach men you’re interested in. Don’t be afraid to step out of the shadows, take up some space and be seen.
4. Unpredictability
Men are attracted to women they can’t control or predict. They obsess over the women who flirt, give them attention, and then don’t feel the need to talk the next day. The lack of availability creates mystery and intrigue. They assume she’s seeing other men and will try that much harder to earn more of her time.
A kitten never tires of chasing a string that’s just out of reach, but once it has the string in its clutches, it quickly loses interest. Men, to some degree, are like the kitten. They love the chase, the thrill of the hunt. So don’t drop the string. Always keep them guessing.
Learn: To break from routine. Predictability kills passion. Keep him guessing by giving him different levels of attention, not spending all your time with him, and always taking him to different places. Just being able to daydream about where you’re going to take him is exciting for men.
5. Independent
An independent woman doesn’t lose touch with her own life, friends and interests when dating a man. She will view him as a welcome addition to her world, but not her entire world. Independent women have busy lives. They aren’t going to clear their entire schedule to accommodate a man.
Refusing to drop everything for a man will actually impress him more than clearing your schedule to accommodate him. By keeping dates with friends and continuing hobbies, a woman shows that she’s loyal, doesn’t need to be entertained all the time and has various options to keep her busy. By being independent, a woman shows she’s not needy or clingy – a common mistake made by women.
Learn: To love your life. Going out with someone new doesn’t mean you should stop shopping with the girls. Enjoy a rich life outside of your relationships. The more enjoyable your life is, the more attractive you’ll be to men.
6. Adventurous
Adventurous women use a mix of adrenaline and psychology to attract men. Men have an automatic bonding system that kicks into gear when they have an adventure with another person. By suggesting to do something extreme, adventurous, unusual or even dangerous, a woman can create an immediate and lasting bond between her and a man.
You don’t have to jump out of a plane to be adventurous or exciting. If someone is used to the bowling alley, taking them to the go carts is going to be an adventure. Know their level of adventure. Skiing, rollerblading, skating, hiking, biking and white-water rafting all provide a pulse-pounding good time.
Adventure dates are not only a lot of fun, but they provide you with amazing stories to help attract other dates. An added bonus is your adventure partner transfers the excitement into seeing you as more exciting, fun and sexy. So feel free to use white water, steep cliffs and open skies to increase his attraction.
Learn: To do new things. Add some adventure and excitement into your life. Millions of people want to strap on a life-jacket and brave raging white water rapids, but few actually do. So move out of your comfort zone and get your adrenaline pumping.
7. Appreciative
A man doesn’t want to be fawned over for everything he does, but he does want you to appreciate the little things. When a man cuts the grass, does the dishes or takes out the trash, all he needs is a “thanks” and a kiss on the cheek.
But when he does something outside the realm of everyday chores and expectations, he expects you to notice. If he has a warm bubble bath waiting for you after an especially tough day at the office, reward him with a seductive striptease before pulling him in the tub with you. Not everyone is willing to make an extra effort. So if he goes beyond the ordinary, appreciate his effort and you’ll find him doing it again and again.
Learn: To reward his effort. Life is all about the little things. When someone goes out of their way to make your life a little better be sure to show them you appreciate it. If you do, they’ll often do it again.
8. Honest
Honesty is always the best policy. Strong, confident women aren’t afraid to be completely honest. If it isn’t working out, they don’t lie to themselves or their partner. They accept it.
Relationships, however big or small are built on trust. If you shatter that trust, you might never be able to put it back together. This is women who try to be something they aren’t, are always doomed to failure.
Smart women don’t try to hide the fact they are bothered by something. Men can sense when something is wrong, so don’t lie about your feelings. Just take time to observe your feelings and find the best way to express them.
Learn: To tell the truth. Be honest with yourself about your relationships. If something is bothering you, speak up and talk about it.
9. Humorous
Women don’t need to be stand-up comedian or have a show on Comedy Central to be considered funny. All you need to be able to do is make the occasional joke or provide a humorous comeback if someone’s hassling you.
Being funny isn’t that difficult, but it is a very powerful tool to impress men. Men always list humor as one of the most attractive traits a woman can have. And nothing wins their friends over faster than a witty comeback.
Learn: To laugh. It doesn’t matter if it’s at yourself or someone else. Laughing feels good. It’s great for bonding. Just make sure you’re viewed as funny and not the half-time entertainment.
10. Cool under fire
Men want a woman who can handle any social situation that comes up. Someone who doesn’t get rattled by difficult people, places or situations. Women that know how to keep a bad situation from escalating into something worse make life a lot easier for men.
If a jerk comes up and says something idiotic to her, a woman who’s cool under fire simply rolls her eyes and gives the jerk a look of pity or explains how he can improve his social skills. A smart woman can instantly diffuse a bad situation. What she doesn’t do is make a scene or start a fight.
Men judge how a woman reacts under stressful situations – especially when he doesn’t know a lot about her. Showing poorly in one of these situations can cost you a date or even a relationship. So keep calm and stay cool.
Learn: To take is easy. Nothing is worse than being out with a woman that flies off the handle at the smallest situation or inconvenience. Treat everyone around you with courtesy and respect and you’ll find yourself with few worries or problems.
Originally Published: http://www.thechoice.co.nz/ten-traits-that-attract-men
