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I’m frequently asked by clients both in new and long-term relationships how to determine if the relationship is a rebound or real love. The term “rebound” carries quite a negative stigma in our cultural lexicon, and armchair psychoanalysts tend to throw it around anytime someone enters a new relationship within weeks after their last relationship...

It’s all too human to get lazy in our relationships and take things for granted. When things are going well, we have a tendency to coast. Here are some ways to enjoy more fulfilling connections: Listen deeply.Listen especially carefully when your partner or friend is expressing something about the relationship. A sincere effort to listen—even it you don’t fully understand everything...

As children, we often form a fantasy of what real love looks like. Though we may paint a pretty picture in our minds, this fantasy isn’t necessarily built on the admirable qualities we truly desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and...

1. You feel compelled to be loyal. 2. You think of ways you will love them more than you think of the ways you hope they will love you. 3. You start compromising on things you thought you wouldn’t. 4. You’re happy when they are, because they are. 5. There is a sense of peace...

This simple technique is designed to deepen all of your intimate relationships, including your relationship with yourself. Each of its three steps leads to greater authenticity; to a gentle, skillful “overthrow” of the inner and outer voices which hold us back from deeper love.  It’s acronym, “AHA” can help us remember each step. Step 1: Authenticity The initial step is Authenticity....

According to the book Real Love, unconditional love is, in essence, true love — so different from the kind of love most of us have known all our lives that it deserves a definition of its own. Unconditional love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. It’s...

Women often say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn’t worked so no, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. If the media is to be believed, many women don’t care what...

Men act like they are the only species afraid of commitment. We are. We are very scared. It is a very hard concept to wrap our testosterone-filled bodies and child-like brains around, when genetically and biologically, by laws of nature and procreation, we are meant to inseminate as many females as possible (at the same...

Many of us have pondered the concept of soul mates before. What is a soul mate? Do I have one? And if so, where is mine? The idea that there is one special person created just for you is too juicy not to consider.  I definitely believe in soul mates, but my definition extends beyond...

What makes the perfect girlfriend? Contrary to what you might think, most guys aren’t looking for a supermodel. They’re just looking for their perfect match: a woman who’s down-to-earth, sweet and sensitive to his needs. Here are ten attractive traits that every man keeps in mind when deciding if the woman (i.e. you) sitting across...